yes you shouldn't give with the expectation to receive; but certainly when times are bad you hope that those people are there for you, co-workers or friends, and they keep in mind that you were there for them.
The reciprical arrangement of doing stuff for other people is not optional; it's part of what makes society work and a nicer place to be in. Giving and getting back unexpectedly or when you need makes you more likely to help someone else in future (this whole good samaritan thing doesn't wash with me; even if the return is a thank you, or a meal or a card or some gesture, that's cool, and psychology means you'll look for others to help next time - a good deed deserves (or begets) another as they say - it's like a chain reaction.)
And I don't see why co-workers should get off the hook...
If this happens I just pretend to be deaf next time they ask for help. And yes this one-sided nature of giving happens a lot to me, so I've now found myself wary of requests - see what the damage is of constant 'takers'? It means the next time or person that good deed is less likely...
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Date: 2006-06-27 12:28 pm (UTC)The reciprical arrangement of doing stuff for other people is not optional; it's part of what makes society work and a nicer place to be in. Giving and getting back unexpectedly or when you need makes you more likely to help someone else in future (this whole good samaritan thing doesn't wash with me; even if the return is a thank you, or a meal or a card or some gesture, that's cool, and psychology means you'll look for others to help next time - a good deed deserves (or begets) another as they say - it's like a chain reaction.)
And I don't see why co-workers should get off the hook...
If this happens I just pretend to be deaf next time they ask for help. And yes this one-sided nature of giving happens a lot to me, so I've now found myself wary of requests - see what the damage is of constant 'takers'? It means the next time or person that good deed is less likely...