The only thing I have to say about your tale of tire tribulations is that I'm glad you weren't hurt and that it didn't cause a serious accident.
Everyone is unique - but I've been somewhere near your grief, when my mother died in '98. As the saying goes, "the only way out is through..."
I have noticed that sometimes people worry that getting past the immediate grief of losing someone so close will mean they'll wind up forgetting that person. From my experience, that's an empty worry - 8 years later, I still find myself thinking "Ooh, I've got to tell Mom about this... whoops."
It's just that now it no longer feels like someone's knifed me in the chest and poured salt in the wound.
Do your best to focus on good memories of your mother when she comes to mind; I know that can hurt - but I don't think you want to have her illness and death as the first thing you think of when she comes to mind.
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Date: 2006-07-28 07:24 am (UTC)Everyone is unique - but I've been somewhere near your grief, when my mother died in '98. As the saying goes, "the only way out is through..."
I have noticed that sometimes people worry that getting past the immediate grief of losing someone so close will mean they'll wind up forgetting that person. From my experience, that's an empty worry - 8 years later, I still find myself thinking "Ooh, I've got to tell Mom about this... whoops."
It's just that now it no longer feels like someone's knifed me in the chest and poured salt in the wound.
Do your best to focus on good memories of your mother when she comes to mind; I know that can hurt - but I don't think you want to have her illness and death as the first thing you think of when she comes to mind.
Take care of yourself.