Homesteadin'

[greatbear]

Why go on some ordinary vacation when I can stay home and clean up the yard and make not one, but two trips to the landfill! I got all I need right here! ;)

Actually this has been a much needed task, and today brought a couple of unusual and cool occurrences right in our front yard. There was some activity in an unused field across the street. Come to find out, people from the area made a baseball diamond. And since the process is "if you build it, they will come", today the youngsters from the neighborhood were playing ball in their own private ballpark. Very cool. And just a bit further up the road, the Maple Lawn development put on a very involved fireworks display tonight. We piled in the car, drove to the end of the road and had prime seats. This helped a bit to put me in a slightly better frame of mind than I have been for the past few days.

Through the magic of LJ and Facebook, I get to see all the fun that so many of you are having without me. Have a drink and think of me.

As I have come to expect, when in need of some help, my local friends are conspicuously absent. I should be used to this as it has been the norm for ages, but it still hurts. I will still help them out as usual, hoping the pangs of guilt will prod them into some sort of action one day. Or not.

I guess I should not post when both in pain and with a bitchy attitude, but it fills up the time.

Comments

[2stroker.livejournal.com]

You should to get yourself a motorcycle. Then when you find yourself down or stuck on vacation alone instead of languishing around the house pretending to be happy doing chores that you could really do during your normal day to day routine you can go out and have some fun riding ! It works for me and keeps me out of trouble.

[redmoonriver.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[fingertrouble.livejournal.com]

oh that's sad about local friends...it does seem after you get over 25/30 and people start buying houses and coupled that some people just drift into their own bubbles, even in a large city.

Best thing is to be conspicous by your absence...then when they bitch that you're never there you can nicely list off all the times they never bothered when you needed someone.

Sounds like they are more fair-weather friends or acquaintances - sadly a few of my close friends have gone that way, sometimes my lack of contact, sometimes theirs - but really bothering is a two-way process - although I've not really contacted them, they've not done likewise so it goes into friend stasis.

[fingertrouble.livejournal.com]

Also most of these friends are on social media as well, Facebook, etc. (no Scott or Steve not talking about you, talking about my older friends ;-) it's odd that when something that does require friend-duties happens - say having my wallet stolen, John being seriously ill, a relative killing themselves - the silence is deafening.

I thought social media is supposed to bring people together? Just seems people focus on the inane silly stuff, the light stuff, and they don't even call me (I realise this isn't the place to talk about deep stuff, maybe...). Odd.

It sounds slightly bitchy and list-ticky but really, the friends you know you have are the few that respond, care and will lend you money. The rest are just shadows on the wall of the cave.

[beastbriskett.livejournal.com]

I've learned that having expectations leads to disappointment. Hard not to, though. When it happens, I try to see the situation in relation to larger things, and my hurt feelings get some perspective, so it's easier to let it go.
It seems you're doing the same, noticing the ballpark, and the good things about your neighborhood. That partially filled container hasn't changed, but how you see it does.

Want some help wrestling this down?

[baeritone.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry, Phil. I need to be a better friend to you. I've been far too solipsistic over the past couple of years.

Let me know what you need from me, and it's yours.