Surgery Update

[greatbear]

Hello friends of Phil/Bender/Greatbearmd :)
First and foremost I want to take this time to thank each and everyone of you for your kind thoughts for my partner/lover and more important BEST FRIEND Phil. He means the world to me and I'd be lost without him. I know he would say thanks to you all as well.

Surgery UPDATE: Phil had his surgery done Monday. He went into to operating room at 11:30 am and was finished at 3:30 pm. The doctor came to me and told me everything went well and that he should have less pain now that the procedure was done. He told us both that the pain will never fully go away because we all have aches and pains as we age. The doctor also told me that I would be allowed to see him later that day. My question, in a joking tone, to him was when we could and if we could go dancing next week for our 10th anniversary:) He just smiled and said if Phil was up to it we should enjoy ourselves.

When I finally got to his room around 5:15 that afternoon I saw a pale ashy colored man lying in the bed. In my ten + years with Phil I never saw him look so helpless and frail. I slowly walked up to the bed as to not wake him if he was indeed asleep. The first words he spoke was "BOOOOOOCHIE", his nickname for me. I was so relieved. Although he was in such pain and discomfort I did not know what and where to kiss him. I don't think he fully knew I was there as they had him some pretty good meds for the pain. I sat and held his hand for hours and we chatted or more I chatted and told him how much I love him. I could see in his eyes he was glad I was there and needed me to be there for him. In and out of naps we spoke for an hour or so. I told him I needed to go and take care of Kodi as he was home alone for over 10 hours that day. Sure enough he had a present waiting for me.

Today, Tuesday I called from work to see how my man was doing. He was in much better spirits and far less pain. I stopped by earlier to see him and came home to tend to Kodi so I would not get any more presents like yesterday. I will head back to see him in another hour and have dinner in his room with him. I will let Phil tell you about the nice food service department they have at this hospital.

Again thanks everyone for your kind words. I will let Phil update the rest of the story when he gets home tomorrow. I am sure he will ready to get back at his computer. I am so glad he is going to be A O K>

Comments

[aadroma.livejournal.com]

My thoughts are with you and Phil. (HUG)

[delko.livejournal.com]

Here's to a speedy recovery and congrats to 10! Me and my guy just hit 11 and I'm thankful he's the director of an elder law program! lol

[fj.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the update.

Yeah people look scary after operations. Then they get better. As he will.

[draco-kc.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the news. Keeping you both in my thoughts, wishing him a swift recovery and a good outcome from the procedure!

[furrbear.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the update, Jeff. I know that walk into hospital room feeling too well myself.

Here's to a speedy recovery for Phil.

[bygbrat.livejournal.com]

thanks for the update!

yall take care and may the recovery be speedy!

hugs!

[bitterlawngnome.livejournal.com]

yay!

[maxauburn.livejournal.com]

Thank you, Jeff...*ULTRA-HUGS* to you both.

Wishing Phil an *ULTRA-FAST* recovery!

[redmoonriver.livejournal.com]

sending you both hugs and good wishes

[champdaddy.livejournal.com]

Thank goodness he has you. XXOO to you both.

[ptownnyc.livejournal.com]

Thanks so much for the update - I'm so glad to hear it!

[putzmeisterbear.livejournal.com]

I'm glad that the operation went well. And I'm glad you have each other. Here's to a swift recovery. Congratulations on your upcoming landmark anniversary. Ten years is so awesome!

[jkusters]

Very glad to hear all of this! Thank you!!!

[tonethbone.livejournal.com]

Thank you. I was waiting for some news. Send him my love and best wishes for a speedy recovery

Tony

[jrjarrett.livejournal.com]

That's great news to hear. I hope this gives you guys some very needed relief.....

[detailbear.livejournal.com]

Great Yayage!

[badgerpdx.livejournal.com]

I'm so glad it's going well. Give him a smooch for me. Much love to you both.

[beg1n.livejournal.com]

YaaaaaaaaaaY, and thank you for the update, and big hugs to you both!

[notdefined.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much for keeping us informed about Phil. I hope you are holding up okay, I know how this sort of thing that upsets the rhythm of your life can be distressing. Trust me, the moment he is back in the house, despite whatever comes next, you will breathe a sigh of relief, cuz it is good to have hubby back home. Tell Phil I'm keeping him in my thoughts and give him a gentle hug for me.

[westendboy.livejournal.com]

That's great news!

And you guys are so lucky to have each other. Reading your post brought tears to my eyes. Hope he has a good fast recovery with no problems whatsoever and that you get to dance together at your 10th anniversary!! :)

[mrdreamjeans.livejournal.com]

Thanks so much for your kindness to Phil's virtual friends. I'm keeping both of you in my thoughts ... May he heal quickly and be free from the pain!

HUGS!

[theoctothorpe.livejournal.com]

This is WONDERFUL NEWS!!

Much love to you, and to Phil. Thank you for keeping us informed.

[restoman.livejournal.com]

Thank you for the update, Jeff!
I'm sending my wishes for Phil's speedy recovery.
*hugs to you both*

[fredneckteddy.livejournal.com]

oh i am very VERY glad to hear this news jeff!!!! Thank you for posting in Phil's stead! sending you good healing vibes to both of you :) *HUGE BEAR HUGS*

[clintswan.livejournal.com]

thank you for the update!

*sends healing thoughts*

[bearlover.livejournal.com]

HUGS to PHil!!!!

Thank you for the update, Jeff!

[bonkishnurtaz.livejournal.com]

I hope that Phil has a quick recovery and a great reduction in the pain he has been experiencing. Perhaps, Phil would like to check out the Cygnus X-1 website when he's up to it. Thank you for being a great partner to him! ((((HUGS))))

[wrascalism.livejournal.com]

Gentle hugs and tugs for both of you, thanks for keeping us in the loop!

[normalcyispasse.livejournal.com]

I am so very, very hopeful that this surgery turns out exceedingly well.

[ciddyguy.livejournal.com]

Indeed, this is good news all around, glad things are going along OK and that chances are he'll be much better, even if not perfect but better enough to function more or less fine at least.

I'm just glad you have each other to rely on.

Hugs to you both.

[mcbulldawg.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the good news, Jeff! YAY PHIL!!!!!!!! I hope his pain levels continue to decrease and his spirit continues to increase!

[holy13nation.livejournal.com]

Great news.

[kdotdammit.livejournal.com]

Give him a GREAT BIG HUGE DOT DAMMIT HUG, OH PLEASE!!!!

[furr-a-bruin.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the update, and here's hoping he's feeling much better soon!

[2stroker.livejournal.com]

Here's to a fast and full recovery ! Thanks for the update.

[ironranger1.livejournal.com]

So glad he's doing better. Though I haven't posted before, I've been following this all, and he and you are both in my thoughts and prayers.

[beastbriskett.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the good news, Jeff. I'm glad to know that you're there to take care of your man.
Big gentle hugs to you both!

[teddyb.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Jeff, for the update. Your kindness toward Phil's LJ community at this time when you are dealing with so much is definitely appreciated.

I'm so glad to hear the surgery was completed without complications and looks like it will bring long-term relief.

I wish you and Phil all the best for a rapid recovery and for many more years of happiness together.