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[greatbear]

FMLA leave is great - allows me time to spend with mom and take care of her, etc. It also sucks due to the fact my paycheck becomes a big fat zero. Time off that I could combine with some needed work around the house and garage has to be metered delicately with available funds. So, I instead noodle my way along using stuff I already have on hand. It can be frustrating at times though.

It's been raining it's ass off around these parts. One of my no-funds-needed projects will be cleaning out the downspouts, as I was greeted with a behind-the-Niagara Falls view through just about every window during the downpours. One day of rain netted over 6 inches of the wet stuff, overflowing my unenviable rain gauge and leaving the true numbers a mystery. Some minor basement dampness as a result, nothing of note. Luckily the house roof, which is in desperate need of replacing in one area is still staying watertight. I dont want anyone pounding on the roof while Mom is trying to rest. I have some wiring and trimwork to occupy my time, plus I am finally going to finish up the damn sheetrock, painting and woodwork in the sunroom.

Of course, I could always count on the myriad times I have helped coworkers put additions on their houses, fixed their cars, countless hours of advice, help and whatnot. Or at least count on their concern. But, apparently FMLA means I get absolutely none of that either.

Mom's condition steadily declines, but she's hanging tough. I can only guess as to how much longer though.

Comments

[greatbearmd.livejournal.com]

Thanks. :)

[jamesbeary.livejournal.com]

Hugs.

My father is going to hospital tonight. He has been dealing with very nasty shingle outbreak plus persistent high fever. the doctor said it warranted a short terrm full time medical care for him.... so I am about to take him there. It just feel werid.

Hugs and much love to you as you deal with the changes about your mother.

[greatbearmd.livejournal.com]

Best wishes on a fast recovery for your father, and thanks for the kind words.

[greatbearmd.livejournal.com]

You always manage to brighten my day. Thanks. :)

[ciddyguy.livejournal.com]

You know, this situation you are in sounds very similar to being unemployed. Little to no funds and time to do needed projects. When you are working and have the funds...

Sorry to hear of all this.

Watching a loved one slip away has got to one of the worst things one can go through.

Having been there, I know where you are right now.

Hugs to you.

[greatbearmd.livejournal.com]

They say time is money, but howcome one cant seem to have them both at one time?

Thanks for the good vibes.

Hugs

[ciddyguy.livejournal.com]

They say time is money, but howcome one cant seem to have them both at one time?

Good question!

[igzorp.livejournal.com]

Hugs and prayers for all ... Know it is difficult situation you are going through. Atleast FMLA allows for the time off - granted paid time would be better - but time off is important.

Good luck with the odd projects and little tasks to complete/finish to keep busy during those inbetween times. If there is anything I can do , let me know..

[le-lapin.livejournal.com]

[fingertrouble.livejournal.com]

yes you shouldn't give with the expectation to receive; but certainly when times are bad you hope that those people are there for you, co-workers or friends, and they keep in mind that you were there for them.

The reciprical arrangement of doing stuff for other people is not optional; it's part of what makes society work and a nicer place to be in. Giving and getting back unexpectedly or when you need makes you more likely to help someone else in future (this whole good samaritan thing doesn't wash with me; even if the return is a thank you, or a meal or a card or some gesture, that's cool, and psychology means you'll look for others to help next time - a good deed deserves (or begets) another as they say - it's like a chain reaction.)

And I don't see why co-workers should get off the hook...

If this happens I just pretend to be deaf next time they ask for help. And yes this one-sided nature of giving happens a lot to me, so I've now found myself wary of requests - see what the damage is of constant 'takers'? It means the next time or person that good deed is less likely...

[fjdbear.livejournal.com]

One day at a time handsome. Hugs

[standardtom.livejournal.com]

All my best hopes for your mother, and you, Phil.

[devcubber.livejournal.com]

I'm glad you can take FMLA to spend these important days with your mom, and yourself. It does suck that you will get no salary, but this will be a chunk of time worth millions to you in memories.

You are giving your mother a precious gift of your time and love to help her through the end of her days on this earth. While you are caring for her, please remember to be super gentle with yourself, and to take care of you, too. Wish I could be closer to help you laugh and relax - no good at home repairs.

Enjoy the time you have with her.

{big hugs}

[le-lapin.livejournal.com]

[rockybear02.livejournal.com]

Wow - so sorry to hear about your Mom Phil. I'm sure you are a great comfort to her. Hang in there. HUG